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In my formative teen years, I was told cycling adds inches in the right place. Vertically, I mean.
I heroically asked my Dad to teach me. It is said, ‘A teacher should never be short tempered; nor should a student be shy.’ Well, Papa and I made up two equal and opposite halves of that saying. Needless to say, the plan soon aborted and gave way to a pregnant pause! And that’s when my brother stepped in.
He was more determined than me, more sure of my success and a million times more patient. His exact attitude was :![]()
We chose the wide, uncrowded pathway near our house for practice sessions. Post school and pre dinner. Did he have friends waiting? Yes.
Did he have better plans pending? Yes.
Did he have his own teenager problems looming over him? Yes.
Did he expect a medal in return? No. Money? No.
Surely he had more important personal matters to attend than to spend time soothing my nerves and getting my irritated verbal whiplashes in return! Yet there he was, hour after patient hour jogging behind me with constant instructions and a steady hand to propel me up.
Meanwhile, I always performed better when I was allowed to say,
As I graduated from half pedal to full pedal, one fine day I saw him jogging beside me rather than behind me, with a wide grin. He waved to me. Hey! he was supposed to hold onto me! That’s when it dawned that I was on my own and still soaring ahead. Oh! The surge of confidence, the joy of mastering fear, the pleasure of acquiring a new skill.
Truly, the best quality of a skill is that nobody can take it away again. But learning to cycle was not the end of learning. The next lesson was harder. Taking the fall! It had to happen sometime – and it did. Fortunately for me, I fell in good company!
Taking a sharp hairpin bend, I swerved and twisted the handle at an impossible angle. I felt the stunned surprise that the ground should rise up to meet me. Then the the pain shot up my shin and ground reality woke me up. I saw the long oblong of grazed skin peeling off, felt tears smarting my eyes. I waited for my brother to hover me anxiously. My brother stood a carefully careful distance away. He didn’t run up nor did he wipe away my tears. He asked steadily, ‘Are you OK? See if the bicycle is damaged anywhere.’ As it is, my pride was hurt more than I was.
In retrospect, I think it was the perfect response. A shade more paternal and I would have burst into tears. A shade less concerned and I would have been put off forever by the fear of falling.
Here’s a look-back note of gratitude for him. For having the time to invest in me, for being confident in me, for teaching me a lifetime skill and most importantly, for teaching me how to teach! I hope I am that teacher for some student someday. Here are some awesome cycling quotes:
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This blog is part of http://www.hdfclife.com/ Apno Ko Apne Dum Pe Jeena Sikhao ‘Happy Hours’ by Indieblogger.

Great post. We all are permanently under construction. The difference is many of us do not know.
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Yes, indeed, we all are. If only each of us got the right person with right dose of patience to allow us to bloom fully.
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Thanks for nice reply.
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You are most welcome.
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Thank you.
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My Dear Sweety, WE DEMAND a picture of Your Brother! 🙂 Good post. Kudos.
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Haha, he insists on being behind rather than in front of the camera. If you want to see his watercolor sketches, there is a SunilSketches.com link on my blog, on right hand sidebar. It shows multiple, multicolor turbans. That is where he sketches his travel memories, architecture images etc.
He’s quite a photographer as well, but prefers to linger over monuments as opposed to human faces.
http://sunilshinde.typepad.com/photography/ and http://www.sunilshinde.com/ are his travel and photography websites.
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Went to the first link, my Dear Sweety, and quite liked the very first picture. But could not find a ‘Like’ button. So tweeted it.
The same with the second link as well!
You have a Good Brother. Precious! Love and Regards. 🙂
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Yes, I told him many times to add ‘like’ and ‘follow’ buttons. But he’s stubborn on some counts.
But thank you so much for Tweeting it! Yes, I’m blessed indeed.
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Lovely thoughts…I can feel the love, the care, the emotional bonding, which was nurtured so beautifully! Sweety, you are blessed to have such an understanding and benevolent sibling. Such memories go a long way in building passionate, confident and adventurous individuals. Thanks for sharing!
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Thank you so much! Yes, I am indeed blessed to have such a brother. There are many more ways he has shaped my personality – right from introducing me to George Michael’s music, from steering me away from M&B towards better authors, teaching me to do parallel car parking etc, etc.
We do take so many things for granted, so when IndieBLogger gave this topic, the memory just sprang into action.
Thank you for the sweet words.
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Ha ha enjoyed this post took me back to the day I actually rode the bicycle. In the words of Sir Arthur Conan Doyle ~ “when the spirits are low, when the day appears dark ………….., just mount a bicycle and go for a spin down the road without thought on anything but the ride you are taking”. 🙂
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Ah, yes. The simple joys of life! I only wish every city had special cycling zones, to make the ride safer and more boisterous.
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Sounds like a wonderful memory… and tribute to him. I love that he knew exactly when to let you go, while jogging alongside you.
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Verily. As in every sphere and stage of life, ‘letting go’ at the crucial phase is vital. Thank you for the comments.
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Sweet. Your brother is a good teacher, Drsweety. He taught me how to drive the car and Rhea how to ride a bike.
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He taught me 3 point U turn and parallel parking too!
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Aww…
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Hey, Sunil, you helped me win a gift voucher from Flipkart!
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Hope, Drsweety Shinde is not ” short tempered” now as a teacher as she was when a student learning cycling! Good article, well written!
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Thank you! Unfortunately the streak continues albeit in restrained mode.
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He tot me as well…algebra, geometry, physics, chem n bio
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Now that u mention he taught me those electrical circuits and e=mc2 as well! Such patience he has!
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It reminds me of Pappa doing same things for me.
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Yes, some good men help to retain faith in the majority, don’t they?
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