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Have you ever been on a moral high horse and been kicked off it? Happened to me twice in the same day by 2 different men.
Perfectly ordinary men. A laundryman. A taxi driver.
- Scene 1: Morning door bell. Ever-smiling pleasant laundry man. Today he had a taut half smile, an apology and a regret.
He wouldn’t be around to launder my clothes for a month. Going to his village.
“My son died today morning,” he said in a dazed voice.
As I struggled with the right words of compassion and condolences, he assured me he’d send his brother across from the village to take over the laundry.
Then he went across from house to house with the same message. As he descended the stairs, the lift bell rang. Rang and rang. He stopped halfway down the stairs, came back and checked the lift door. He noticed it half ajar, he closed it shut and then continued down the stairs for his house to house personal message.
- Scene 2: I was returning home from ISKCON’s weekly Bhagavad Gita session. Out of nowhere, a car in front of us backed out. It had stopped at a right turn signal, but it abruptly changed its mind, reversed at breakneck speed and banged backwards into our taxi.
Sickening crunch as our taxi lurched to a halt. The other car was a SUV. It was bigger stronger, sturdier – it suffered no damage. It verved and zoomed off.
I saw the taxi bonnet scrunched up awkwardly. Front right bulb cracked. Engine stalled. My taxi driver did not rail at the other car, did not curse. He steered the car to a shoulder, checked under the bonnet and fiddled around with the wires.
“Rich man, Madam, he can get away with it. If the reverse had happened, I would have been kicked and slapped by public.” he said calmly. He told me he’d repair the car after dropping me home. ![]()
“Freedom from material desires, Parth. In the midst of suffering, he whose mind is neither confused nor kindled is equanimous – a sthith pradnya,” I had just heard in the Gita session. Smug on my own spiritual elevation, I had heard the words without listening to them.
Now I wondered. Very much. Would I have been able to practice what was preached to me?
2 ordinary men. 2 extraordinary men.
The laundry man who demonstrated how to carry on a job responsibility in the face of crippling sorrow; and how to stay aware of somebody else’s troubles even in the wake of unbearable heartbreak. The taxi driver who showed how to be a sthith-pradnya through actions instead of words.
Both were MAGICAL gestures – more so because they were neither aimed to impress nor intended for an audience. Spontaneous gestures by 2 simple men.
I was humbled by their gestures, and elated by their gestures. The former because I realized how much room for improvement exists within me. The latter because I realized how much more is humanly possible. ![]()
Will I ever get to that spiritual level? I can but try.
Have you ever been tested? Ever been made to fight an emotion you think you have mastered?
P.S: “I am participating in the #DilKiDealOnSnapdeal activity at BlogAdda in association with SnapDeal.”

People teach us more by their deeds than any book ……. therefore Gandhiji said ” be the change you want to see in the world “.
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Precisely. Its perhaps the rare instance where I agree with M.K Gandhi. Thank you so much, Aayush.
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That’s great, I appreciate gandhiji much more than our present generation 🙂
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Wonderful inspiration to be found in both stories here Sweety and one is humbled by them both.
Wishing you a Peaceful and Reflective Weekend x
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Thank you, Sue! I indeed need to reflect , introspect and try to improve myself. Wish you much peace and joy too.
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I just believe one should be calm in all circumstances, that will alleviate a lot of miseries in life.
I have been tested many times, and have learned from my mistakes. Nobody is perfect, but improvement is definitely possible.
Moreover, such men as you have mentioned are very few and they are an example for us.
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True. I totally agree about ‘ideally should remain calm’, but have found myself struggling to bring it into action. The abyss between theory and practice needs to be bridged with self-control anger management, meditation and introspection.
Good for you, if you are able to do it. And yes, practice makes perfect. I will definitely try to upscale my efforts towards a balanced behavior and avoid knee-jerk reactions. Thank you so much!
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Thanks for telling us these 2 heartwarming incidents. This world is still a livable place because people like these 2 are sill here. By the way, is that SUV belong to a certain movie actor?
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Haha, no idea. It drove away too fast. You want me to be a prime witness in another SUV-VIP case? No thank you, I’ll be blackmailed and may mysteriously disappear 6 feet beneath the ground.
Honestly, such people make life seem a better place in the midst of all the depressing news and events around us.
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Touchingly narrated. Thanks for this. 🙂
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Thank you! I truly believe such positive people and events should be printed on page 1 of every newspaper – to bring a morning smile to every reader. Otherwise, newspapers are so depressing as they choose to focus on disasters on page 1. Don’t you think so?
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Hi Sweety,
A wonderful post! Life throws such ideas all the time, only if we have a discerning eye, an empathetic heart and a caring attitude. Thanks for articulating the thoughts of many, which just pass by as they don’t have the right words to pen them down.
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Thank you so much! I think I’m becoming more observant ever since I started blogging. Perhaps I see every event as a possible blogpost- whether inspiring or provocative.
But yes, acknowledging such wonderful people’s existence is to be grateful towards life. In today’s pessimistic scenario, I use such incidents as harbingers of hope. Maybe the world isn’t such a bad , wicked place. Hope keeps us all afloat.
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Wow! the response of the taxi driver is pretty interesting. The last time I had a similar incident, I nearly got physically assaulted cos the driver on the other car jammed into my car, created a ruckus and gathered public attention and the public seemed ever so enthusiastic to thrash me!!!
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Haha, yes. Public response is a whole new topic for psycho-analysis. I wonder if they really respond to the situation- or merely use it as an excuse to vent out their fury and frustration. Most of the public have a subtle anger towards car-owners and would love to destroy what they cannot have/cherish/value. Don’t you think so?
Its mostly not the actual accident or perpetrator that they want punished.
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I think the latter is perhaps right – a vent for their emotions and frustrations. And it is so frustrating to be at the receiving end of that. I wonder on whom I should vent my frustrations 😉😆.. It’s kinda like a never ending cycle !!
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haha, if you are enroute to office, you can always slam the door. If enroute home, you can always ….umm, slam the door again.
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Ha ha ha ha … Office – well not so satisfying with a glass door 😉
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Hmm, what a pain! Sometimes I envy the film heroes who get to crash and break crystal vases, plates and glasses. Must be cathartic.
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Ha ha I wish I could crash some .. I’d totally do that provided they belonged to someone else .
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Spot-on!
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such people only make this world worth living..
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Truly, they seem so sorted out in terms of their position, responsibility, accountability and sanity. I really think every newspaper should print such positive stories on page 1, for the sake of every reader’s pleasant day.
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Glad that you are observing such instances of wisdom playing out at common man’s level, that often pass unnoticed mostly because of mistaken notion that virtues of prudence and foresight only operate at higher and refined strata of society. There is, however, a discernible gap in age separating you and the cited characters. They may be unlettered but are bound to be more mellowed and wizened by the longer years. While the laundry man’s response to tragic event in his family life is tempered by responsibility to his customers and the keen realisation that he has return back to his work to earn his living, the taxi driver’s restrained reaction to an unexpected hit-and-run incident is again balanced by his experience of spending all his working time on the road in the midst of traffic; he is so used to such situations. That said, there are also cases of irresponsible laundry guys simply vanishing from the scene and cabbies losing their temper and hollering Billingsgate in the face of provocations. Education gives knowledge and it converts to wisdom in the process of relating it to life’s experiences. The very fact you are keenly observing these things clearly indicates that you are on the road to becoming a finer human being, Sweety…best wishes.
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Thank you so much! I would treasure every experience if it acts as catalyst into fine tuning my character. As I advance in life, I realize how much I still have to de-learn and re-learn. Such incidents are a wake-up call for introspection.
In terms of age, well, they weren’t elderly. But yes, wise enough to know the impact of their decisions on their bread-butter. Yes, there are many examples of the worse behavior patterns – infact, just today a taxi driver brutalized a woman passenger. I guess we just have to highlight the positives , atleast for our own peace of mind.
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Such people live around us. We see them but perhaps fail to observe their qualities.
I really liked this line in the post,”I had heard the words without listening to them”.
Couldn’t agree more… .
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I love your comments. You always personalize them instead of generalizing them. Thank you for the visit, Maniparna.
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